Dear COMM,

On Social Exchange Theory, I sincerely disagree with its stand in making relationships beneficiaries, especially on friends and "special" friends. Being a friend does not and should not require any costs and rewards. We brand some people as gold diggers, sugar daddies, sugar mommies, user-friendly, and we hate them to hell. This theory points out that all of us are somewhat like that. During a time when I had my special friend, I knew I was on the losing end. Of course, I had to spend so much time, money, and effort but did she ever ask me to buy her all of those presents or did she ever ask me to pay for her part of the bill? Absolutely not. All I ever had to do was to treat her special because that was what she was. Yes, man is a rational being but I believe that the reasons to which his actions are rooted should not solely lie on pleasure and self appraisal. Cliche as it sounds, we know it's true.